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NMEDGE

NMEDGE

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Now that the holidays are coming once again does anyone here ever get to feeling sad? This is the only way I can describe it. It seems that as the holidays approach I get a melancholy feeling. Feels like I am missing something and I don't know what is. I try to keep myself busy but in the back of my mind it feels like I am missing something. We don't do anything stressful for the holidays and it's just me, the wife and the dog. This year the dog turned 7 and she has had a couple of issues. I do worry about her because she is my world. Life would be boring without her. Just another thing that gets me to thinking. Just wondering if anyone else gets like this at this time of the year. Other than that I am a normal person and enjoy life.
 
I have been that way myself for as long as I can remember during Christmas time so I had always worked being that I could escape the madness and also let my fellow Police Officers with children have the day off. My Wife no longer has her Parents and I admit they treated me as their own "son" so it's hard and I get it NMEDGE. I also never "wanted" anything for Christmas I would "beg" people to not get me anything I would get more joy giving others gifts. So for the past couple of years I just put on the pretend smile and try to get by especially for my Wife's sake but if it were up to me I'd go and work double shifts out on patrol. And NO that's not weird
 
Yeah, I’ve had it a few times.

Look into seasonal affective disorder.

The short days/lack of sunlight can mess with your brain a bit; couple that a bit of outside stress, and and it can be a lot.

There’s plenty of things that work for it, though, from vitamins to changing the wavelength of light you’re exposed to.
 
Look into SAD like Hans suggested. I don't have it but pat has had it for a while, especially after her parents passed. We got her a natural light lamp last Christmas and it seemed to help. This year with her illnesses well that's a whole different thing.
 
I had been that way for years. My family has been spread across North America my whole life. We become nostalgic during the holidays and wish for the way things were…but things change.
The way I see it now is… I think people have so many expectations for the “perfect” Christmas this and that, and there is no way to live up to that.
I have worked so many holidays so that those with families could spend time together because I couldn’t afford to travel to mine. I began to appreciate those around me who would share their holiday with me and I formed my own little traditions (like mixing Bailey’s Irish Cream in my coffee on Christmas morning). I don’t buy into the retail commercialism that the holidays have become. I find personal ways to enjoy the little bit of time off I may have and count my blessings when I can spend time with those I care about most.
 
Been there done that…just went thru Veterans Day and the USMC Birthday. Lost a lot of friends along the way. Turn 80 soon, it, is to be expected, I guess. Kids scattered and wrapped up in their own world, just wife and I, 2 dogs. Church going, but more for wife than myself. V.A. Says I am 60% disabled from PTSD, so there is that. Holidays; T-day; and Christmas can be rough. But friends on sites like this help a lot, take mind off concerns, for which I thank you…
 
Seasonal depression is real. Lots of reasons have already been listed. For some people it gets really bad.
I do get it to some degree, but have replaced a lot of it with anger. The crowds, the commercialism, the greed and people just acting like total AHs when its supposed to be a celebration. :eek:
Yeah, I'm depressed, but mostly the so-called Holiday season just pisses me off! 🤬
 
A year ago last month I lost my middle sister. I lost my oldest sister Jan. of that year . There is only me and my youngest sister left and she is 8 years older than me.

I do get a little sad but I don't dwell on it. I still have a few friends so there is that.
 
NMEDGE said:
Now that the holidays are coming once again does anyone here ever get to feeling sad? This is the only way I can describe it. It seems that as the holidays approach I get a melancholy feeling. Feels like I am missing something and I don't know what is. I try to keep myself busy but in the back of my mind it feels like I am missing something. We don't do anything stressful for the holidays and it's just me, the wife and the dog. This year the dog turned 7 and she has had a couple of issues. I do worry about her because she is my world. Life would be boring without her. Just another thing that gets me to thinking. Just wondering if anyone else gets like this at this time of the year. Other than that I am a normal person and enjoy life.
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Know where you're coming from. Wife has a chemo infusion the day before Thanksgiving. Her first infusion was this past Thursday she is still having pretty bad nausea issues. Our Daughter and Grand Daughter will be home, pretty sure they will get me out of my funk, hope so. Hope you start feeling better.
 
Thanks everyone! It just seems to come on with the first Christmas advertisements. After that it starts to mellow out but it sure does bring me a lot of memories of the past. Parents have been gone for a while and sister passed just 2 years ago. She was younger than me and the year that she died she wanted to come here for the holidays but died in October. Now that I am fully retired I don't even have work to help me get thru it but the husky brings me a lot of happiness and joy. Just seeing her happy face makes me feel better. Thank you for letting me know I am not the only one who goes thru this.
 
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Know where you're coming from. Wife has a chemo infusion the day before Thanksgiving. Her first infusion was this past Thursday she is still having pretty bad nausea issues. Our Daughter and Grand Daughter will be home, pretty sure they will get me out of my funk, hope so. Hope you start feeling better.
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Try ginger , ginger ale, ginger candy, anything ginger helps with the chemo nausea. They even used to give it out when my wife took chemo. Another thing is use plastic utensils for eating. Thst gets rid of the metallic taste they often get when trying to eat.

Try all sorts of different foods. When my mother in law had cancer we found the thing she ate best were refried beans fron taco bell. Anything for sone protein in her. With my dad when he had it it was starkist tuna with duke's mayo.

The plastic utensils helped all three of them with the metallic taste.

Prayers sent your way.
 
My wonderful Mother suffered with SAD annually, beginning shortly after the ridiculous fall time change. By Thanksgiving she was rather "blue." She would begin improving by Christmas, as she concentrated on the true meaning of the holiday: the birth of our Savior.
 
I understand that last man linely feeking. I get a bit blue come hunting season. The start of October was a magic time for Dad, Don and I. I knew don for 50 years was my best friend. He started hunting eith dad and I and for 50 years we hunted archery and thrn rifke.

It was our lives we practiced archery every weekend all year long and once Oct hit we hunted almost every day.

Then Don passed from brain cancer 8 years ago, then dad passed 3 years ago. October is a lonely month now and this year with pats illness I won't even be hunting up north first time in my entire life.

but I will try next year and keep the traditions going, it's hard bring the last man standing..

Take what joy you csn my friend out of your pup and anywhere else you can get it.
 
well sir
as a kid my grandparents were full on at our house turkey day and Christmas.. times i shall never forget
we tried to do the same with our kid, and my grand daughter has only had 3 or 4 with out us
my new great grand critter will be on the list to

we lost and loose people we care for
like i bet many people we have pictures of all our loved ones and loved pets, we speak their names and tell stories about them etc all the time...not just special occasions
we keep their spirit alive in our home and make sure or additions to the family know many things about those who came before
the good, the bad and the funny.

that being said, yes there are times we get in the lower moods, that's part of being a HUMAN being with emotions and free will

as a flucked up veteran with sand box issues
i do the little meditation events to clear the fudge and get back to remembering the love and support from those in my family.
used to drink waaayyy to much, it didnt help
although i have been drink free for nearly 16 months, i am not a non drinker, i just choose not to.

its like being a former smoker, i choose not to and tell the packs not to call my name at the store, i could strike one up in a minute 24/7


talking it out is HUGE in the area of moving past the moment and getting the mind right boss.
sharing with strangers or funny smart asssss on a forum is also a HUGE redirect .
sharing with close friends helps as well, although it tests who is actually your friend or just a "friend"

i also have a very sick or weird sense of humor, which helps put moods back in the box.
i just watched a music video with some guy and carrie underwood...her lips looked like two sausages set horizontal across her mouth they were so full from cosmetic stuff, i have a sick mind and laughed for a few minutes out loud


you might laugh or agree, but one of my best ways to clear the fudge, is go reload or get the gear ready to load and forces the brain the get back to the science of reloading..
that math, physics and attention to detail works fast

i would add.......never ever ever feel bad for asking the question.
 
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