Appearing to be a potential victim is about a lot more than not openly carrying a gun. Not paying attention is the big one. Pair that with open carrying a gun, now you're probably getting shot with your own gun.
In my life, it is NEVER an advantage for others to know I am armed.
Exactly(appearing to be a victim is a lot more).
Even though I live in a small town I still am careful where I park when I go out and what's around me.
I was at a parts store this morning and I saw a homeless guy walking around asking for money. I saw him before he saw me. I almost always have a $1 handy to give a homeless person. But I go to them, I don't usually allow them to get close to me. And that's what I did with this person. I gave him a $1 and walked away. He thanked me and kept on moving.
I sometimes see a homeless person at a traffic light not too far from where I live. I almost always have a couple of loose dollar bills in the center console of my truck. I'll grab a buck and have it in my hand and hand it to them, wish them a good day and be prepared to drive off if necessary. I never let them get too close to the cab of my truck. I don't always give money to homeless people. But if I feel it's safe to do so, then I will. If I don't, I won't. I try to be aware of what's around me, when I'm not at home(with my dog watching my back...
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If there had been several homeless people walking around, I probably would have jumped in my truck and driven off.
When you pay attention and are somewhat prepared you are usually less of a victim, especially during the day. I don't go out at night much. When I do, I usually know where I'm going and the safer places to stop for gas or to use a bathroom.
When I'm pumping gas I'm scanning the area. If someone makes me nervous, then I prepare to engage them if they start getting closer than I'm comfortable with them getting. I have told many a person, "No, thank you. Have a good day. Good-bye." And on a few occasions had to use more forceful language.
I've got tattoos. I look like I'm in good shape. I train in martial arts several times a week. I've had my nose broken from Boxing, Martial Arts, and working as a bouncer, so my face looks like it's been in a few scrapes, especially, my nose...
I'm not scared to get hit or fight, but I'd rather not. Like I tell my students, no one wins in a fight, we just survive.
I'm polite to everyone, but if a person sees my politeness as a weakness and/or doesn't respect the space I want, then I'll use a firmer tone and go from there.
I have pulled into a gas station and left because the environment didn't feel right to me.
Being aware. Being polite, but firm, but also not fearing a confrontation, has always worked for me. But every individual has to develop their own sense of awareness and survival. If being on your cellphone constantly is what makes you happy, fine. Just don't whine when you get ripped off or mad because you got sued because you got into an accident because you were distracted by your phone.
Being caught off guard is never a good thing. It really doesn't take a lot to be prepared. Most fear and risks can be managed and hopefully controlled. There's lots of good training and information out there.