Hi,
Ha! You funny!
Sometimes we digress.
Let me just relate to you what I've learned and
tried to put into practice.
There are a couple of schools of thought as to handling your pistol. There are those who get a vice-like grip on it so that the gun doesn't move (much?) while they're thinking "I'm gonna make this gun do what I want it to." But a lot of us can't free our trigger finger enough, allow it to act independently, to pull it straight back when the palms of our hands are squeezing the grip, and the off-hand is "pulling" while the strong hand is "pushing".
Another school of thought is to keep a firm grip but go ahead and let the gun recoil. The important thing is to keep the sight picture, keep the sights properly aligned all the way through the trigger pull, right up until the shot fires. Without as much stress in your grip your trigger finger will be able to move straight back more accurately. When the gun recoils it will flip a little more but your good grip will allow you to get the sights back on target quickly.
I seem to have better accuracy using the second school of thought. With a little looser grip, especially with the strong hand, my trigger finger is able to move more independently and let the sights remain aligned on the target. I also have to fight the urge to look over my sights to see where the shot will land, thus taking my eyes off the front sight.
There's a Youtube video floating around where the instructor stresses the most important thing in accuracy is the sight picture and sight alignment, more important than grip or stance. He even stands on one foot, holds the pistol upside down in his off hand with his thumb and ring finger, squeezes the trigger with his pinky, and hits the steel target about 20 yards away. I found it!
Anyway, there are many more shooters here much more experienced than I who can offer more help. I've been training and practicing for three years and still have my good days and bad days. I have better days when I concentrate on the front sight more.
Thank you for your indulgence,
BassCliff