You've already received some really good advice from a few guys here and I don't think I can offer anything other than what they already have ..... except I'm a full fledged left hander and might be able to offer a little bit from another POV.
I've tried about every possible carry position there is at one time or another, but I always come back to basically where I started. I carry high on the belt, left side, forward cant, OWB, at the 10-11 oclock position. I think the key is for all of us carrying a little extra weight around the middle, is the high carry and forward cant.
In the holsters I wear the most with either my PF9 or my Hellcat, the trigger guard is placed just about at the belt level. Not above the belt, not lower than the belt, but just about directly over the belt. That height, along with sufficient cant will allow for me to carry either of these small pistols with little to no printing. Wearing the gun just in front of the middle (front to back) of my torso lays the forward tilting grip right into my "extra weight", if you know what I mean. It's very comfortable in a short time.
For reference I'll give this explanation .... on a pair of regular, boot cut, Wrangler jeans, the holster rides between the first and second belt loop on my left side. Once my pants are on and buckled up, I slide the holster as far to the front, next to the back side of the first belt loop as I can. Then I holster the gun and make sure it's in firmly. In all the different ways I've tried over the years, this has always worked for me. This way also makes it a little harder to get my hand in my left front pocket, so I make certain to not carry anything I might need in a hurry in that pocket. Now, I'll admit I have worn it in ways that might have allowed a little faster draw, but not by much. Certainly not anything that rode behind the center line, front to back, of my torso. I'm willing to give up that little bit, if any, draw speed in order to be comfortable and undetectable. And I'm hoping to never be in a quick draw contest. Hopefully situational awareness will make up for any lack of speed. But that's just me!
Now, I've also tried wearing it on my right side (appendix) with a custom built left handed holster with reverse cant. You'll have to plan for this if you decide to wear a right handed holster on your left side because the normal cant will be backwards if using a standard right hand holster for cross draw. Keep that in mind.
Consider all the info you've gotten here tonight. Try as many as you can by borrowing various holsters as possible before making up your mind. Most likely you'll eventually end up like most of us and end up with a box full of various holsters before you finally settle on one in particular. No shame in that as long as you can keep the wife from knowing how many you've bought and chosen not to use over time. I just let my extras get dirty/dusty and then swear ... "Honey, I've had those old things forever", "don't you remember when 'so & so' gave that one to me"? It'll work most of the time, but when it doesn't, that'll be when the fight begins! But the good thing is by then you'll likely have found the right combo for you. Good luck!
regards,
jumpinjoe